How to make the transition ?
If you’ve always talked to a psychologist online, and you’ve never had the experience of interacting with the psychotherapist face-to-face, then you don’t miss direct interaction. But if things are the other way around, and so far you’ve only done offline psychotherapy, how will you get used to the new situation? Won’t it be awkward, with lots of pauses and distractions? What if the connection is bad? What happens if another family member interrupts you? These are just some of the questions that anyone facing the dilemma of changing the environment in which the psychotherapeutic process takes place asks themselves.
Here are some things you can do to make the transition easier:
1. Openly discuss any concerns you have
All the questions I listed above, and others, can make you worry and increase your anxiety level, which is probably already high because of the pandemic. It’s only natural to have them, especially if you’re going to try something for the first time. But remember that you are not alone, you have a trusted partner in this experience with whom you can find answers. A good idea is to make a list of your worries and anxieties, and communicate them in writing or on the phone to the psychotherapist.
2. Create a conducive space during the session
If you’ve been in more than one psychotherapy office, you’ve probably noticed that they have one thing in common: they are extremely comfortable and quiet spaces. These can serve as models for the space from which you choose to talk to the psychotherapist. That doesn’t mean you have to have a leather armchair as big as the one in your office, or the colourful fluffy cushions on the sofa. Whether you’re sitting in a chair, on the floor, on a cushion, or on the bed, make sure you stay comfortable and can relax.
3. Dress for therapy
If you want your therapy to go exactly as it did before you transitioned online, make sure you behave as you did before. That means it’s good to stick to the rituals you had. In other words, even if your outfit doesn’t show, that doesn’t mean it’s not important. If you’re in your pajamas or housecoats, you may feel uncomfortable, exposed, vulnerable, or awkward. Or you simply may not be able to get into the state of mind necessary for the psychotherapeutic process. So while it may seem pointless or stupid to dress up for someone who can’t even see your clothes, make an effort. It’ll definitely be worth it.
4. Make sure you feel safe
The confidentiality of the psychotherapist-client relationship is sacrosanct and underlies the trusting relationship between the two. If the psychotherapist were free to reveal our secrets, most of us would probably refuse therapy outright. When therapy takes place in the office, it is the psychotherapist’s responsibility to make sure that no one hears the conversation. But when therapy is online, the client must also be careful to protect their privacy.
One solution is to ask the other people in the house to stay in the farthest room, if it’s a larger dwelling, and you know the sounds are not easily heard. Another would be to ask them to go shopping during the session. Since therapy is usually weekly and lasts 50 minutes, and we are allowed to go out for essential shopping, the two events can overlap perfectly.
5. Trust the process
Many people say they are extremely happy with online therapy, even before the pandemic. Remember that you might like it too, even more than you expect. And in the end, it won’t last forever. When you resume your normal life, you will be able to return to offline therapy. Until then, trust the process, because if you go into the session unsure and fearful, it will inevitably affect the course of the session. If you focus on the discussion and really believe it will work, chances are it will.